WHEN SOMEONE IN THE HOUSE DID NOT CHOOSE THIS
For the one who said yes to the dog, and the one who said yes to the family.
Somebody in this house wanted a dog. Somebody else said yes because they love the people asking — not because they wanted an animal in their home.
That person is not a problem to be solved. They are a member of this household whose comfort is part of the system, and they should not have to argue for space in their own home.
This is written for both of you. One part for the person who did not choose this, and what they are entitled to say. One part for everybody else, and what they build so that person never has to enforce it alone.
It assumes the people you live with are willing to change something. If they are not, what you are facing is not a dog problem, and nothing in these pages will fix it.
What’s in it
- What you are entitled to say, and why you should not have to argue for it
- The sentences that sound reassuring and are not — "he just wants to play"
- Rooms that stay off-limits, and paths that stay clear
- What happens the moment you say stop
- Who handles the dog, so you never have to
- What the children must never do
- Coming closer, if you ever want to — and why never is a complete answer